SS's Mom is a Complete Narcissist

 

In response to your email.

Dear Mom,

Just read the email that you sent to DH.  Let me just clarify and then I am done with you.  First, the school pictures were in SS’s bag for several days.  I do not know why you did not get to see them, I honestly thought that you had.  If I am wrong then you have my apologies for that.  None the less, I truly thought that you had seen them.  At any rate, when you saw me Monday at school, I had dropped off the photos off with Mrs. Byrd because it was my fault that they were not in SS’s bag on Friday so that he could turn them in, I didn’t want Mrs. Byrd asking SS for them/money and then putting undue stress on him.  That is all, nothing more, nothing less, just trying to make things easier for SS, period.  No maliciousness involved, simply trying to do the right thing.

Now, you actually think that I am jealous of you.  Seriously, seriously Mom.  I am not jealous of you, not one bit.  You and I were getting along just fine, until the other year, (last year? Not checking dates.) When you asked for us to send SS’s clothes back and you did not reciprocate, that bothered me so being the person that I am, I asked you about it, then got a lie in reply that you never said that, both SS and DH said that you asked for the return of the clothes.  That angered me, yes, angered me, it was not about the clothes, not at all, just about reciprocity, do unto others, you’ve heard of that, yes?

As written before, we were getting along until that, we had both asked for forgiveness for past wrongs, and forgiveness we received.  Only I didn’t receive it, not fully, because after that incident, you began to bring all past transgressions back, apropos of nothing.  It is my understanding of the Bible and God based on my upbringing, that once transgressions are forgiven, truly forgiven, they are not brought up again.  Perhaps I am wrong. 

Again, after that incident, DH and I both received many an email from you with much nastiness and name calling.  Once they started I was done with you.  DONE.  Your emails are mean, nasty, and totally UNCHRISTIAN (walk the walk honey if you are going to talk the talk).  I find it amusing how you want to be an inspiration to people, how great you think God is, how we should all be forgiving, etc.  Funny, I wonder if those same people read the nasty, mean, swearing emails that are sent to us (seemingly on a regular basis) what those same people would think of you. 

Jealous, no, I think not.  You are SS’s mother, I respect that, but that is all.  That is ALL.  I do not wish to be around you, see you, or hear you.  You make my stomach turn and my skin crawl with the skiviness that is you, that is solely based on your behavior.  Your behavior.  Your behavior.  Own it. Own it.  Go back and re-read your emails of the last year, read them. 

I do not wish to be SS’s mother, I have a child that I gave birth to, so I do know what it is to be a parent, I’ve been one for going on 24 years now, so I get it!  I simply love SS, as if he were my flesh and blood, and try to treat him that way.  With so much negativity surrounding being a stepparent in the media, Disney films etc., I am just trying to be a positive influence in his life, help him when he needs it, but trying to be his mother, no way, not a chance.  SS loves you more than life itself, I happen to think that is amazing, and wonderful!  SS is a very lucky kid, he is surrounded by love and I would think that you would be pleased about that.  Oh, well, wrong I am.

This is the absolute LAST correspondence from me that you will receive, if you respond, I will simply file it away with the other insanity that we have.   I am writing now, to ask you to NOT write to me (you can’t because you are blocked from my account) or about me, call me (you can’t as you have been blocked from calling my phone) or in any way shape or form contact me.  To do so will violate this request.

Be Careful What You Wish For

Karma, continued.

I'm sorry to write this truly, I am.

Be careful what you wish for. You stated in a Facebook post that you believed in karma and that you wished that and couldn't wait for karma to strike two people over and over and over and over. Well sis, be very careful what you wish for and you should be more specific. Karma did unfortunately strike two people over and over and over. Only it wasn't the two you wanted it was your husband and yourself.

Not to appear callous, and I surely do not mean to, but you accused us of trying to cause harm to you and your unborn child (as mentioned in other posts), which to me is tantamount to attempted murder. You were adamant that you were not going to have a girl, in fact challenged those that wrote and said that you were going to have a girl; I believe that some of your statements went like this: I am not going to have a girl, it's a boy, I know it's a boy, I want a boy, I do not want a girl.

So, karma, it's ghastly being; karma struck this time over and over I am all too sorry to "say" took your most blessed gift. When you accused us, falsely I might add, of trying to cause you to miscarry and or die yourself, karma reared it's ugly head and you lost your beautiful child, the gift from God that SHE was. Yes, I did write SHE. Oh the ugliness of karma, you were so not going to have a girl and wanted a boy, karma, you got the gift of a little girl only to have her taken away from you one week later.

Be careful what you wish for sometimes we get it--in abundance!!

And did you learn from this? NO, I say No you did not. You are back to the same obnoxious, sack, of feces that you ever were. Already you are beginning with the idiotic email, accusations, when all the dad wishes to know is are you back at work and where is his son. Get over yourself you obnoxious, narcissistic, spoiled-brat bitch. Yes, you lost a child and no parent, and I mean NO PARENT should ever have to bury a child, but that does not give you the right to use that as a crutch, in order to get attention, which is exactly what you are doing. Exploitation at it's absolute worst!! God you make me sick you, you, UGH!!! Everything, everything is always about you. "Leave me alone, I'm grieving." Most people do not act like you do, most people don't write about the funeral of their child, "I am so proud of both of my children. It was the proudest day of my life"

Crazy

Karma

So, it's been several months since writing. But I feel that an update is in order.

The docs have put you on bedrest in order for you little wee one to survive and what do you do? Go shopping, at the mall to get of all things, and I'm sure it must have been an emergency, Legos. Shocking!!! Legos and then out to get Mexican food. Bed rest? 1cm remaining of amniotic fluid? Are you kidding me? I just don't get where you think that everyone is supposed to believe your lies. "I'm hemorrhaging, I've been admitted to the hospital. They want me to stay until I deliver. But I just can't be away from my son for 10 weeks." What an absolute selfish cunt you are!! Unbelievable!!!! If my doc said to me your baby may die and has a greater chance at survival if you stay in the hospital where we can monitor yours/baby's condition, you bet your big fat ass I would stay there. People would bring your son to visit you. What a complete loser, idiot you are!! And the fact that your husband puts up with your insane drama shows what a loser he is. You accused us of trying to cause harm to you and your unborn child and you wished that karma would hit again and again and again---well guess what sista, you got your karma IN SPADES. You claimed for the first four months that the baby was a boy, that you were not going to have a boy that you didn't want a boy. Too bad, you are having a girl. What a shame that you can't keep your mouth shut. Karma, reaping what you sew...it all comes back to bite you in the end now doesn't it. I accused us of harming you and your child and now you may loose it and your own life. Dear, dear, dear...you are one pathetic, sorry excuse for a human being.

Sometimes I just have to get it out of my system!!

Insanity

Oh, what to do, what to do!! Frustration, frustration, frustration.

So the hubby has changed his schedule in order to see his son on his court appointed days. A little background. Dad (hubby) has child Wed 3:00pm to Sun 9:30am; Mom Sun 9:30am to Wed 3:00pm. With some weird addition to the agreement in that if the parent is working or needs a sitter when the child is scheduled to be with that parent the other parent must be notified first and given option of "first refusal". In other words you are offering that parent the option of sitting for you or not. Because of this clause Dad was not able to see his son on Wed or Thur due to the fact that he was working and the time off was 8:30 in the evening. By the time Dad would be able to collect son it would be around 9:30pm and too late as child would be in bed (or rather should be in bed). So this stupid scheduling arrangement led to Dad going part-time (total with my blessing and full support) in order to see his child on his court appointed days.

Nevermind seeing the child, he is now helping with homework and there has been some improvement in his school performance. The first week of the new schedule Dad received a call from the child's teacher in regards to child's school performance. Her message Ryan, if he doesn't get a grip and shape up in the spelling writing department, will be failing the second grade. Big SHOCKER there.

So my vent here is that Mom has been taking care of child Mon-Thurs and along with her new hubby they have been helping child with his homework, evidently not very well as he was failing the second grade. (Note, child was held back in kindergarten.)

So, Dad has been working with child for three weeks now. Mom had been taking child to scouts every Thursday night at 7:00pm; doing homework when they got back home after 8:00pm. Spelling test every Friday at school. Child never knows the words; how to spell nor the definitions, or how used in a sentence.

Mom has been verbally abusive because Dad is not taking child to boy scouts and instead (oh my God) doing homework, learning, playing catch-up. I can honestly say, that I have never loved my husband more (I'm sure this will continue to grow); he is tirelessly working with his son so that he will now do well in school. Working so hard, I am in awe!!! We've gotten worksheets from the internet, trying different ways for child to do well with his spelling. We are also trying to make things fun!!! That is the hard part!!!

It breaks my heart that Dad does all this work and Mom just gets on the phone and gets a tutor. For the second grade no less!!!! Oh, my God what a slug!!! Oh, yes, she paid for a tutor for the child in KINDERGARTEN too!! What a complete idiot!!

She has ranted and raved now so that Dad will take child to scouts each Thursday. I do realize that socializing is indeed another way of learning, but this kid is behind in school, drastically, and she wants him in scouts on Thursday night rather than studying. I mean I know that the kid is 8, but for right now he needs to pass school!

Again, I am quite sure that this makes absolutely no sense, but I am just typing out random thoughts in order to vent....or I'll explode.....

Thanks!!

Sorry SOD

I just want you to know exactly what I think of you. I think that you are without a doubt the most selfish, coniving, sorriest excuse for a human being that I have ever met. Why can't the boy stay with his Dad this evening. Oh is it because it's your day? Nevermind that you have him on Dad's two days Wed & Thurs, oh but that's because Dad's at work. Well that is soon to change you gump faced, baboon, bastard. Sorry sack of rot!! Sorry foks, just had to let that out!! It's coming to an end soon very soon!!

Explanation

Why blog? I don't even know the exact meaning of the word (is it a word?) blog, but am computer savy enough to find out.

A-ha!! According to Wikipedia (that great encyclopedia Britanica of the internet) blog:A blog (a contraction of the term "web log")[1] is a type of website, usually maintained by an individual with regular entries of commentary, descriptions of events, or other material such as graphics or video. Entries are commonly displayed in reverse-chronological order. "Blog" can also be used as a verb, meaning to maintain or add content to a blog.
Many blogs provide commentary or news on a particular subject; others function as more personal online diaries. A typical blog combines text, images, and links to other blogs, Web pages, and other media related to its topic. The ability of readers to leave comments in an interactive format is an important part of many blogs. Most blogs are primarily textual, although some focus on art (Art blog), photographs (photoblog), videos (Video blogging), music (MP3 blog), and audio (podcasting). Microblogging is another type of blogging, featuring very short posts.

So having satisfied myself with this definition I will now begin to "blog".

Hmmm, my reason for blogging begins with a visit to the urgent care in my town of residence. While waiting for two hours to be seen I rifled through the waiting area mags and came across the article "5 minutes to happy: Go from blah to bliss in an instant". By Jennifer Matlack. Okay, 5 minutes to happy. Now mind you, I am not unhappy, not in the least. The fact that I take antidepressants, is irrelevent. They are for depression/anxiety, with emphasis on anxiety rather than depression. But occasionaly, as the article states you are in a lousy mood and want to feel better fast. What you need is a happiness fix--RIGHT NOW. Try some of these tips. Tip number 1: start a blog. “Like journaling, it gives you an outlet for your feelings. But it may be even better for triggering happiness because people can leave you positive comments".

So here I am blogging. For the first time in my life. Simply typing out some random thoughts and trying to relax and let go. Of what you may say? Well different things. For instance, my husband's ex-wife. A piece of work that one. The poster child for Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Ah geesh. Where do I begin....well first there are her parenting skills. Are these skills? She and my husband are the parents of a wonderful child, my step-child. Now mind you I wasn't raised to use the term step, nor did I raise my child to use that either. She introduces my husband as her Second Dad, or Dad II. My mom taught us that blood does not necessarily a relative make. So any way, I will always be the "step-mom" combine that with all the negative aspects of the term....

Hence the name of my blog "Vent to Prevent". I am a big proponent of venting. If one does not vent one will explode.....so I "Vent to Prevent" here where (hopefully) no one will be hurt (namely the love of my life, the hubby). No names will be mentioned, save fictious ones in order to protect the innocent or the guilty which ever the case may be.....

On this blog there will be no judgements. Period. It's just a venting tool. Pure, plain, and simple. Just as a release, or to write out some random thoughts (as it appears that I am giving a prime example).

I'll be back later I'm sure for some titillating writing....

I'm still here!!!